Did you ever wonder about how your friends treat you sometimes? Sometimes you feel you would probably be treated better by strangers.
You know the old saying. “you don’t know who your friends are until your time of need”? Well 4 friends stopped talking to me when I was going through my cancer treatments years ago. . There is only one I have been talking again but the others have not heard from them since. Whatever it was that made them stop calling me should have been pushed aside until I got better to deal with it. Your friend is sick and your letting trivial unimportant, petty things get in the way because you are selfish. I never did find out why the other three stopped calling me but who cares at this point. People have told me” Maybe they couldn’t handle it.” First of all that’s a very lame excuse and a cop out. Secondly. If they couldn’t handle it they why didn’t they tell me?
The biggest excuse is when your friends say they couldn’t call/email you because they were busy. No one is ever too busy to pick up the phone and call. Now with cell phones it should be easier then ever. When someone says they were too busy to call you back it’s just an excuse to say they couldn’t be bothered. If they literally didn’t return anyone’s phone call you’d believe them. We all pick and choose whom we call and don’t call back.
Now with the internet we have social networking sites. I am reluctantly on one. No one wants to talk on the phone or even step outside of the house because we don’t want to go out and interact anymore. I remember calling on the phone and just meeting whomever. This is way before computers and cell phones. Anyway. I have several friends on this social website. These are people I know. They send you friend requests and you either accept them or decline them. I even get some from people I don’t know. I don’t know you so what makes you think I am going to want to be your friend? You can also talk to them by instant messenger when they are logged on. It will show up on your chat. So I am usually the one saying hello first and initiating conversation, not them. Then it is like pulling teeth to get them to respond or carry on a conversation. Why did you friend me in the first place if you do not want to talk to me or are you just a friend collector? Is it to boast how many friends you have collected. I don’t get it. It is a waste of my time. So I think I will start deleting all the “friends” I have who fit this category. Maybe they will get the hint. Friendship is a job that you have to work at to maintain and just like any job it comes with responsibilities.
